My name is Janice and I hold a BA in Psychology and am affiliated with the Workplace Bullying Institute.
I spent 27 years in the workforce, with 16 of those in the aviation industry. I took to blogging after experiencing the horrific effects of workplace bullying. It was only after the loss of my beloved career and a sudden decline in my physical and mental health that I would learn workplace bullying is a predictable, well-researched phenomenon affecting millions of others. I started The Empowered Employee in hopes of arming employees with the knowledge and resources needed to protect one’s health and career. The very nature of bullying is to disconnect us. The entire mission of this site is to connect and empower us. If you or someone you know is facing workplace aggression, there is help. We are stronger together.
Wishing you success and peace, Janice XO
300 Days. The maximum number of days in New Jersey I was given to file a lawsuit against my employer…
And also the day I was left to find justice outside the courtroom.
This day comes and goes without resolve for many. For me, I simply wasn’t feeling well enough yet to survive the long battle ahead. For others, maybe they weren’t able to find a lawyer. Or couldn’t afford one once they did.
In any case, the day our statute of limitations runs out can be a difficult one filled with many different emotions. At least, it was for me.
I certainly hope you had a nice trip. I can’t even imagine all of the things you need to catch up on. I know it’s Saturday and I have no expectation of a reply; I’ve just felt a pressing need to share, sooner than later, what I’ve been going through.
I’m having a hard time deciding how to begin and how much information to share as I know your time is very valuable and this is a complex situation. I’ll try my best to leave emotions out of it, although it’s certainly been emotional the past few months.
Are you ready to “dare greatly”…again?
At first, it feels almost unfair to ask. Especially of those that have dared so greatly before, only to suffer its consequences.
For most have loved and then lost. Trusted and been betrayed. Belonged and been cast out. Believed and been deceived. Stood up and been shut down…But the workplace bullying target has the unimaginable shock and pain of these all crashing down simultaneously, resulting in a primal need to protect themself.
I’m always searching for books that will expand my knowledge and offer insights on ways employees can better protect and empower themselves in the workplace. So, when I came across a recommendation to read Corporate Confidential by Cynthia Shapiro, a tell-all book by a former HR executive promising to expose the secret agendas and unwritten rules of Corporate America, I jumped at the chance to be in the know.
“How long does it take to fully recover from workplace bullying?” I asked.
“A lifetime,” He replied.
My heart sank as I took in the workplace bullying expert’s words. His response cut sharply through my hopes of someday being able to put this whole experience behind me. And it left me wondering,
What are you willing to die for?
This may seem like too serious of a question for those simply defending themselves against unfair treatment at work, but it’s one that must be considered.
Employees who find themselves suffering in the workplace often fail to heed the advice of experts to leave their toxic environments. And understandably so. There are countless reasons we become attached to our jobs. And even more reasons we fight to stay…including the sheer injustice of what we’re facing.
Not ready to forgive those that hurt you at work? That doesn’t mean you can’t experience freedom from your pain and return to enjoying life again!
Forgiveness can be a touchy subject for those of us that have experienced workplace abuse, especially when the cruel actions of others have altered our life in so many ways. Adding to the difficulty is that workplace bullying targets seldom, if ever, receive acknowledgment from the ones that caused so much harm.
Do you think you’re missed at your old job? If not, you should think again. Knowing how much you mattered may provide a much needed boost in self confidence.
65% of targets of workplace bullying will lose their job. And whether you transferred to escape, were fired unjustly, or took a stand and walked away from the abuse, those of us left reeling in the aftermath often feel defeated. Our confidence suffers as we struggle to separate our prior beliefs about ourselves from our devastating outcome. We often find ourselves wondering,
What are the top 10 ways to save big in the workplace?
In my last blog, I mentioned that the lessons learned from workplace bullying were valuable for anyone working in an organization. But what exactly were the lessons I learned? And which ones could potentially save others their career and health? I took a look back at my situation and narrowed my list down to ten.